Spoke to a lawyer, but never paid to get a separation agreement. I figured she would see that as controlling.
If you are separating and this bothers you that much, you should pay for a separation agreement that limits the OM's presence around your kids. Keep in mind it only works until your D is finalized. Then all bets are off.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016