Your IC's couch is a great place to let it all out. And it's a good thing that you found other stuff to work through.
The one thing I think I learned from all of this is that it's so very important to fill those voids we have with things that fulfill ourselves so that we aren't vulnerable to the addiction of a new R. Healthy relationships don't remove things we need to do for ourselves - they enhance, not mask.
I found something on FB yesterday that I thought would be a great post to you. But I didn't want to shed light on your FB for the world to see. It was some therapist who was talking about the physiology of addiction after a break up. And she likened the healing process to that of curing an addiction.
We've all been guilty of doing this, so it's not directed at you personally. But I think I got stuck in a trap of wanting someone to remove the pain or void in my life that I didn't know existed (at least consciously) or wasn't willing to fill myself. I don't know if that makes sense.
What would your thought process be if you found out that it was just that neither of you was ready for each other? How would that information help you propel yourself to healing?
Love and hugs, Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
