I have been thinking a lot about your post. I think it's a really important topic. I think many men do not truly understand how difficult it is to be judged constantly on your appearance. A female's value often comes from her appearance...At least that's how we feel. Not by any individual male. But by society in general. I think the aging process is a lot more difficult for females as well....especially when we were left by our partners who we expected were committed to us and whom we were prepared to grow old with. So this is the perfect topic for these boards and has not really been discussed too much.
Most of us struggle and relate in some way to what you are describing. You are certainly not alone in these types of thoughts.
It does not rationally make sense (Sarah Silverman made a really funny comment about being devalued for not dying) but it's still there.
It's funny. If I was given the choice of being super beautiful (and young) or highly intelligent. I really do not know which I would choose. That is very sad and perhaps is a reflection of the values society installs in us from a very young age. As a female, I know that my life would be easier being super beautiful. If I was a male I would want to be super intelligent.
It takes a very strong female (and I know they do exist) to be able to accept herself for her accomplishments and the love she brings rather then her appearance. So I guess this is what many of us have to learn to do right?
Cause even with surgery there are so many events that can occur that will effect our appearance. Aging, stretch marks,a health insult like Bell's palsy, losing teeth, hair loss, a surgery that can cause a scar on your face, scarring from burns, a car accident, the list goes on and on. (my years of negativity and anxiety helps me come up with this stuff ). We are not celebrities and can't address every flaw that comes along. All we can do is learn to accept ourselves for being more then just a pretty face. What I am trying to say is that it will always be something.
Not easy. I know. Because its basically about reprograming new thought processes and changing the way we think. (Like me trying to change my years of negative thinking to positive thoughts) I think you have the insight, knowledge, background, intellectual capacity and power to be able to do this if you chose to.
). We are not celebrities and can't address every flaw that comes along. All we can do is learn to accept ourselves for being more then just a pretty face. What I am trying to say is that it will always be something. 
