Now what?/ One Day at a Time

[melweb]

Thanks ladies. I always appreciate your two cents, job.

Ya know, I always thought H's LL was AOS, but now I am really thinking its WOA. Especially during first 8 weeks post BD#1. It is what really helped. Plenty of compliments, sitting and talking over a glass of wine, etc. Granted, it was still a delicate dance--I could not come across over-pursuey, or needy, and he kept telling me "I don't why you're doing this Melweb. It will not rekindle anything." But it did. (Well for a month and a half anyhow.) I know he is now SEEKING validation and assurances, and looking for me to stroke his ego. HE is the one who keeps bring up R talk, and asking how I feel about it, and telling me he loves me first. And of course asking what do I want/ see in him. At one point he told me he was doing me a favor , and in ten years I would thank him. (Ring a bell, Cil?) During that convo, I told him to go have his pity party somewhere else.

Speaking of him saying ILY. Not quite sure if he means it in the real honest-to-goodness way or more of ILYBNILWY way. This has come up too. He will "always love me and care for me and do anything for me, but there is just no passion." That is why I say it in return. Any other suggestions here? I hate to just say "I know."

Ok, now to figure out how to move my cake!! And I mean really move it, not just swirl it around on the plate like I did during after BD#1.