[quote=Irish M] You are numb and I understand your feelings about maybe not loving him or not wanting to take him back. Your H is now someone else. He's a stranger , how could you want or feel for him.
The memory is what you miss and are in love with. He's somewhere on a shelf waiting for this new H to take him down and become him again.
Many bridges will be burned. He will have to rebuild them all by himself. Sure if he does the work you can cheer him on. But don't try to give him any bricks, he'll throw those over the side in the river below. [quote]
Hi Irish, thank you so much for this post, there were such a lot of truths in there!
The last few weeks I have felt exactly as you describe and my Dad says the same as you - that I am in love with a memory. It is hard to accept. I feel like I don't want him back anymore and that thought terrifies me. Also, true to MLC form, because I now feel like that he seems to be drawing back in.
Thank you for keeping checking on me despite my absence. I really do appreciate it so much. I have had a bad few weeks and needed some time away from the boards.
