Unsure of what's next

[LiM]

Hello iwad,

So sorry you are here. You've got to work on emotionally detaching from him. This is incredibly difficult to do but it is what you must do. It will be impossible for you to have a productive conversation with him so long as you are not detached. You have to realize that you can't control him. If he truly wants a divorce, then he's probably going to get it. You have to work on YOU. You need to become the woman only a fool would leave. You need to dump HIM in your mind. Start moving on with your life. Its counter intuitive but we always want what we can't have. Show him what he'll be missing if he divorces you. The divorce isn't going to happen over night. You have time. Be pleasant with him. Validate him and don't argue with him.
It sounds like he has plenty of his own issues to address. If he can't come to grips and begin to work on those, then it may be impossible for him to be a part of a happy marriage no matter what you do. That [censored] but that's not your fault if that's the case.