I think you need to take a step back and stop thinking so much JB. Are you doing stuff to get your mind off this situation? GAL'ing at all? Don't worry about a time frame. I did the same thing for a while, that is not detaching and it is not a good thing to focus on. Just go live your life.
I doubt that is a temp check. Based on your reaction, I am nervous for you when she actually does it. A temp check will send you spinning at the beginning, they did for me anyway.
