You were right to not give in to the nice act. If he wants in, he will have to clearly decide that.

I am sorry this is hard for you. Keep strong.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together