At the very least talk to your L. Choosing not to see your kids for an amount of time can look very damaging in the eyes of the court...
And do not believe her. No a word. She is talking out of her ass...
Forget about your fcucking marriage. It is gone, done for, exterminated... It's the kids you fight for now. Lawyer up, get a good one, a shark, do not let her pull the wool over your eyes. YOU WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOURSELF IF YOU WALK AWAY...
Very true. WW are cold and uncaring. Fight for your kids first.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
Have to agree with Vapor and CWOL. Fight for your kids. Although there may be a kernel of truth to your WW statement that you have issues to address, she has plenty of her own. It sounds like her toxicity is infecting your D8. I think you should be journaling these interactions in case you need them later. My WW blames me for all our D3 bad behavior and tells me that my anger is bad for D3 to see. Any anger that my D3 or any toxicity she experienced comes directly from my WW. It seems laughable that they accept no responsibility and have plenty of blame to push at you. Keep DBing and you'll be able to hold your head high when this is over. Eventually your D will see who is toxic.
Best to you. Vaya con dios.
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Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
I received a message from my W last night. As it was my final night in the house, I think she felt sentimental about me leaving. I had been scarce with my communication all day but this upset me. Please read and give me your thoughts.
"Perhaps I shouldn't say this. But I feel sad. Really sad that you are spending your last night in our home. Your last night, and your family is not even there. I feel sad that we moved into that house with Erica as a baby. With hopes of having a happy family there, and feeling good about our futures. That house should have been everything we needed. Somewhere to call home. But for whatever reason it wasn't enough to keep up together. Anyway, that chapter is closing, and the end of an era is always sad, and naturally we both feel a massive sense of loss. But also a new chapter is new beginning. The one with a potential friendship, if we can find it in our hearts to always be kind to one another. The one that gives you the strength to be the best father those girls could ask for. For fulfilling their dreams of what a man is ... he should be a prince. And always a prince. A new career, a challenge to work towards. Something to help you prove to yourself that you have a purpose, you are relevant and useful in this big world. And for me, my heart will finally be free. I will not be harboring my doubts and worries about 'us' I will be living for me. And the children. Free and happy. Maybe you will like that person when you see her again. So... sleep well in our home tonight, confident in the knowledge that the next chapter could be ten times better, with a different outlook and a bit of focus. Night.... babe."
I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?
