I ffel like this is not the time to stress about not being friends. Like you said I too had the issue of W thinking of moving to another city. I just stood up for the kids to get them in the same school. W now agrees. We both have houses in the school zone.
I also feel if I don't go to visit now when she is inviting me how do I ever expect to get invited. She has not told me she is dating. She has not shown that she is dating. I see no reason why I cold not check out her place.
I have suspicions that she is thinking of dating. But I too was in a place like she is at right now. I am not going to ask to fix stuff for her or ask to visit her. She invited me. There has not been a relationship talk for a while now. It is straight forward, She wants a S, to know for sure that she does not want to be with me. If she wanted to date men she would be on dating websites and out meeting men. Not home with me watching tv in a different room.
I am stronger now. I have no problem visiting her place. Is it not this the movement I am looking for. It wont hurt me to go.
Now like another poster said If I didn't want to be with my W I would spend my time on dating sites and not here.
Me late 30's W mid 30's T 15, M 10 S4, S7 ILYBNILWY June 2015 In house S July 2015 W rings off Oct 2015 My ring off Feb 2015 Separate houses June 2016