Honestly I can't believe how badly a lot of people here enable these affairs. I feel horrible for you. I wish I could have come across you earlier in this process. As is, these exchanges with her are going to eat you up. You need to cut her out of your life, go NC, and move on. Some day she might reach back out to you. She also might not. For your own health you need to tell her that she hurt you worse than you thought you could be hurt and goodbye. Then you don't talk to her anymore. You let lawyers talk to each other. You need this separation for you own mental health. Right now, her new life, including her new man, and wanting to tell you about it, is a cancer that will consume you completely and kill you. Cut that cancer out of your life and move on. You have no reason to talk to her at this point and all it accomplishes is keeping you from getting healthier.
