We've been talking about these things occasionally but I've let her know that we are about to really start talking soon. One of the mistakes I've made in the past is doing things too hastily based upon the way I was feeling. I nearly gave her my ridiculous list. I'm just trying to take time to focus on effective, mature ways of approaching this that come from my heart and not a book. I completely think that making a worksheet that asks us each to individually create are own definitions and visions will give us weeks of material to talk about...hopefully we can do this instead of watching the freakin' TV every night.

My other reason for procrastinating is that I haven't answered the question "ok, we've defined it...now what?" or "She's not doing her part...now what?". Or what if my W "throws my worksheet at me and says it's stupid?". This is where I need some help from a C...to have a better sense of dealing with adversity during the process. I'm not great at handling frustration and adversity.

I'll keep you guys updated on what I come up with.

Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time -Steven Wright