Maybell, what a lovely update. I can relate to so much of it. Feeling (and being told I was ) unattractive, yearning for things I was never going to get. The sense of possibility with someone new. I certainly don't want to fall into the trap of thinking someone new is going to solve all my problems, and I know you don't either -- after all, that's what our Xs did. But, my oh my, isn't is fun to experience something different after all we've been through. Kudos to you, girl.