This morning I get a call from W. "I am gonna kill your son! He is mad because I didn't get all of his contacts transferred to his new phone. Now he wont get up for school and I'm going to be late!" I said, I'm sorry. She says "what should I do just leave him?" I said no, he needs to go to school. She put me on speaker and told him in a very calm tone, "you need to get up or you're probably not getting that phone". Guess what? He got up. I probably shouldn't have done her work for her, but I didn't know what else to do.
It's been that way throughout M. W never can relate to S feelings or how to find the different discipline that works. I always had to be the heavy and I grew to resent her for that and I am sure withdrew from her.
On another topic. Sandi had suggested a possible weekly dinner meetup of W, S and I. I only classify her as WAW at this point. My question is, is it too early in S? Only starting on 3rd week or should I wait a bit?
I feel I am detaching pretty well. I am putting no deadline on the M but I have to think about me and S. Limbo is not a healthy lifestyle. I think I need to start getting her off the main account. She finally started her own but her paychecks barely cover her rent.
So many layers to this unnecessary mess. Ugh!
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
