Be sure to get a lawyer who will fight for the father's rights! You probably have documented just how little she has been with the kids since she took off to Canada. If nothing else, you can refer back to your threads to help you with some dates, etc.

My heart hurts for you and the boys, but it's hard to find sympathy for a woman who refuses to get a job and uses her kids as her excuse...yet she doesn't want to behave like a responsible & mature mother.

Jim, please keep us posted as to how things go. I am sure your hands will be full, yet I feel you can do what you need to do. And, never doubt that you are a good dad! Who knows what she may try to pull, but don't let her scare you. You've got this, okay?

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!