I hope you have a wonderful day. I do want to echo what Zues said in his post at the end of the first page in this thread. I think it is wonderfully stated advice. I hope you experience peace and joy today. My thoughts are with you.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing