Your W will probably have consequences and/or losses you won't know about. At first, she will probably enjoy having her new place and feeling the freedom. Eventually, if she doesn't cake eat and you aren't available for whatever she may want at the moment, little cracks will start showing. I don't know how the finances will be set, but if she's use to having your money to spend.......then I'm sure she's going to need an adjustment there.
I encourage you to not to spend time observing her life and how well, or not so well, things are going for her. Just focus the life you are building for yourself and the kids.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
