5. W up until now has wanted to iron my work shirts "so I look smart" - do I allow this or refuse to show boundaries (it's actually a great help, but I don't want to allow it if it help her feel "better" about the situation she has created) Thoughts?
I would have no problem with it but this is all about you. What do you want? Your shirts done or not to make your wife feel better? Why do you want to deny your wife? Are you looking to punish her for her actions? What do you want to achieve?
any tips on how to respond to wife chatting about her looks / make-up etc?
I would be authentic. If you like enjoy talking with her continue. If the conversation is not of your liking, excuse yourself and find something more pleasing to you.
