No End in Sight

[TimR]

Thanks V, 13, and G8r, things are getting much easier. The more I seem to do for myself the better I seem to feel and not care about what WW is doing.

Found out from S13 on the way home from practice that I was the topic of conversation at the Easter Dinner. BTW, I did not ask about it at all, S13 just started telling me about it. Apparently, S16 was saying about how clean my house was and how much weight I lost. Guess that turned WW and MIL into to a frenzy. According to S13, WW started whispering to MIL and MIL does not whisper to quietly (I am sure she wanted kids to hear). She said to WW "you better not fall for him, he probably just cleaned cause he knew the kids would be there and tell you." That is all he said about the conversation and then started talking legos to me.

I guess MIL doesn't realize a lot. One I may be a bit on the messy side but I am not a slob and I have always kept my house clean. Not to WW standards but always clean. But before her and when I worked a much higher paying firm, I even had a house cleaner. And while I did straighten up a bit, I did not do some drastic cleaning.

Two without a herculean effort on her part, the same effort I put into getting over the pain and making changes, the same effort I continue to put into changing, I do not want WW back. IMHO, if she doesn't she would just cheat on me again, this time sooner. At the first sign of unhappiness which would happen in a year, because things got mundane, she would be off with someone else and on and on it would go.

Third there would also be financial changes. All the burden should not fall on me.

Conditions for her coming back (a work in progress not that I need to worry about it)

1. Admittance of the A.
2. Remorse for A. True remorse.
3. STD tests
4. Joint accounts with half of our checks going in and bills being paid from there.
5. Post-nup
6. Counselling, a lot of counselling for her (that she would pay for).
7. Text to OM ending the relationship.
8. Joint FB and social media accounts.
9. Adoption of the S's and prestipulated 50/50 custody agreement.
10. Anything I am missing?

However, these are not changes she would be willing to make so I have no worries. I am becoming happy with life after WW, I am enjoying wrestling practice with the kids, working out by myself, jogging with friends, even getting to enjoy alone time at home. I can come and go as I please, no one is donating the stuff I own that they do not like, no one is yelling at me from the time I get home till the time I go to bed, no one is putting me down in front of my friends, or telling me I am lazy. I am enjoying the life of a single guy, I even had a woman tell me my butt looked good in jeans. Talk about a little pick me up! WW even before she was wayward (or maybe she was already... who knows, who cares) never complimented me. In fact she would talk about other guys and what great shape they were in right in front of me. Well that is over now, so I do not need to dwell on it! Just now I am becoming happy!!