Like Sandi2 mentioned, sometimes you remain too close. My WW is way too angry to see any of my changes. All she sees is red. One of her comings was that I never use to listen to her. She has repeatedly told me she wants me to move out (I can't afford the mortgage myself but she can) and harps on that as exhibit A that I haven't changed. She still feels that I don't listen to her.
I also try to validate her but she thinks I'm patronizing her. I'll admit that validation doesn't always come naturally for me , but I think her anger biases her perception.
That won't change until we live separately. If I could redo something post BD, it would be to move out. I think it really depends on your specific sitch. Good for some but not all.
Best of luck to you in your sitch. Vaya con dios.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
