Initially when this started I asked for clarification, but she would not say anything except that I am a good man, father and husband, and she had just shut down and had no feelings for anyone. Things escalated over the past 2 months, and I no longer ask, because as she throws out crumbs for why she is doing this it varies and really sounds as sandi2 says, she is re writing the history for her needs. I believe that her circle of support is helping with that. So as my bishop at church says, our only hope now is that she softens her heart and seeks out counsel that may help her reframe the history and look towards solutions and reconciliation. But that will be up to her and God at this point. I just want to implement good relationship behaviors and some of the stuff in Dbing that may provide an opportunity for her to see me in a better light, and continue to strive to be a good person for my family. Mind you I say all of this while the task is a challenge for me each day. But one foot in front of the other and one step at a time, right?
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
