I have felt a shift in myself and no longer want the limbo I have been in for the past 2-3 years … and in a strange way I feel she needs the divorce … maybe we both do. I still have the gut feel one day she will bottom out and regret all this damage, no idea where I will be at that time but I am not longer in the ‘save my M’ camp .. as I have moved to my own where its focused on healing, removing the drama, and just trying to become a better person from all this realizing there was a reason … one I do not understand at this point but I know deep down this had to happen exactly this way.
Amen Cali, this is exactly how I feel about my sitch. I don't want to fight her on what she wants. Its part of her path. She hungers it so much to be free of everything. Only then will she ( or may not) see that her pain is her own and not her family. In your case its a step forward for both op you, even though its sad.
Originally Posted By: CaliGuy
A little side note. I took S out GeoCaching (Its like a scavenger hunt where you use GPS to locate hidden items, outdoors/hiking/active to get him out of the house and off the technology) … something we enjoy and its been ‘our’ thing through this MLC-mess.
We (me and my D's) love Geocaching. we've been doing it since they were 5 and 7. Still do it without W. So glad you are enjoying that activity with your son. I strongly suggest it to all.
Originally Posted By: CaliGuy
I am not so sure W would do what I would need her to do, we would have to date again … I would need total .. talking TOTAL transparency plus I would like to know how that list of everything wrong with me plays into a new relationship .. those words and things said .. while at the time I disregarded them as MLC cray talk … they were said and they are issues. I just do not see that ever happening, like I told him .. my W died in a MLC-car crash and I am haunted by her ghost, looks just like her but the woman I loved and trusted is gone.
Scary you said that to your buddy. I had the same discussion with one of my close friends. That W has too high a mountain to climb and to far an ocean to swim... Even the part of W dying an MLC death and i'm haunted by her ghost..
Our stories are so different and you pointed that out when I first arrived here on this forum. Mine is a runner. But the MLC is all the same
Keep posting buddy, You help so many. God bless
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
