Are you sure this "counseling service" isn't a front for an S/M operation? Sure sounds like it. Go read the posts under "When Therapy Hurts". Forget that quack - Active Listening does have its place, but NOT in a troubled marriage. Partners in a marital situation are TOO close to the front lines to be expected to stand back and use it effectively - we have too much at stake.
As for the sitch with your W, it sounds like maybe you two have made some progress. Keep us informed of further developments. Above all, applaud and reward any progress you see, however small.
