I have managed to read all of your threads and my W is not WW as there is no affair in sight. She is more WAW due to my actions. BUT there are similar traits and what you say about not respecting the LBH is true.
My W booked a trip to Disneyland in April with the kids and her mom without even consulting me. I received the travel documents and she visited because I had the kids and she felt lonely, I told her straight that she cannot behave like this and I am to be consulted at all times and am bitterly disappointed as we had only gone there last year as a family...she didn't try an argue and backed down. Later she sent me a message to tell me that it was nice to have a civilized conversation?!!
I have also reconnected with my D8. I told my W to leave her with me for an hour. She didn't want to because my D8 said no. I told my W to leave, and then, once alone, my D8 was her old self with me again and we are getting along great. All because my W's insipid selfish behavior and unwillingness to encourage anything positive to happen. It is as if she has either no spine or behaves like a snake. Ultimately, she just thinks about herself. Our D4 tried to get us to hug each other, my W later said that she is not ready for hugs at the moment as it doesn't feel right. It's like she is on another planet and like you mentioned, isn't the girl I married.
So I actually took charge of a situation within our family and put things right with my D8..will that get any respect back? Is there a different set of rules for dealing with a W who has just walked away rather than having an affair?
I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?
