the only advice i can give you is either make the decision to go all out and find the truth or find a way to completely ignore all hearsay.

I know many rules here say no snooping, but with you in the place you are right now about to sign the agreement, information is gold.
If you can not handle what you find or it will have no impact on your agreement then stop.

I have heard people before say that outing the new R caused things to change for the better and some for the worse.

LOL i know thanks alot for nothing. It boils down to what will really help YOU.

I know the mind reading is awful, but will it be worse finding news you dont want? That is on you.

I wouldnt bring it up to her unless you have all info you ned though

M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15