Quote: Well, to a degree your spouse is correct. It is ALL YOURS. You are describing a vision of the relationship YOU would like to have. Nothing wrong with that. But you need to take it to the next level if it is going to move beyond it being YOUR vision to an OUR vision. Her vision has to fit in there somewhere, too, in order for it to become shared, yes?
Corri
"Sexless marriage" is an oxymoron. Without sex, there is no marriage. Sex is what gives a marriage its unique quality, making it like no other relationship.
I'm not saying that my vision is sex 3 times a day every day. I have always been willing to modify my vision to include hers, however her vision seems to be to have a celibate, platonic relationship within marriage. Very much like the "I expect you to be faithful to me, but I don't expect to have to help you satisfy your sexual desires" expressed in Michele's book. Yet she labels my expectations as unrealistic. At some point, there has to be movement on BOTH sides, otherwise the result is stale mate (pun intended)...
