I agree with KML. My H suggested we sell the marital home. He was using our city flat and I was renting and it would have suited me to have a chunk of money now.

However, my L advised only selling as part of full settlement of finances. In my sitch, we have two properties and investments too - but the marital home was the only thing we jointly bought and if we sold it and worst case scenario H gambled away all other assets there would be nothing left.

But, if the marital home remained as leverage, there was always going to be a significant asset there, even if he squandered away everything else. I would never have thought about all this and I valued her advice and have stuck with it.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus