Next I think we need touch, for ourselves, with others, therapists, dentists, doctors, manicurist, rdressers, friends and bowing and Havening techniques. Even eventually sexual healing.
Before we even begin any of this we have to accept we were abused or neglected, and know that abuse. The level of it in our bodies and spirit, bring it to reality and awaken the pain. To not deny it and stand in it. To know our ACE score. See the damage, and at least initially care for and name that part of us that was harmed and hurt.
We are allowed our pain and to wallow in it. We are allowed to comfort ourselves to be self centred in it. To throw all our resources into recovery. We are allowed destruction and rebuild of ourselves. To take time, to rework and to recycle our pain.
It is to tell our previous child that they are safe and that we love them. To take revenge on our abusers even if that it is impossible. We can blow wide open the abuse to daylight to include this in our story.
To rework our lives and to atone if we must.
We can keep ourselves open to change, we must accept and want. We must say I will not be abused and I will shine light in dark corners.
Others often tell me I am brave for being open about the abuse and PTSD. 12 stepping tells us that this is the only way to be. To take an inventory of our faults and share them with another.
That is the truth as I see it V
I think you are are a seer lady V. Some saay u may be brave...i think you have a stalwart heart!
Understanding, accepting parental shortcommings/abuse/bullshit/whatever is a good first step. My ace score pretty low. Still not acceptable as not a zero. Still have $hit to work through and need to releive myself of the weight ive put on my own shoulders all these years.
Still not wifes problems but my own to figure out!
