WAW is angry and filing divorce

[sandi2]

Oh, thanks for the confidence but to set the record straight, I am nobody special. Just a former wayward wife, trying to pay forward the help I received and maybe tell about the WW's mindset, and what I've learned from others. You will get a lot of encouragement from people here.

Once I finished school she had dreams of big things and convinced me to move from Utah where we lived to Arizona and she came down and left me and my D who was 3 at the time for about 3 months. It was a challenging time and we got further in debt while I played single dad and worked and tried to job hunt in Arizona so we could come down and be a family

Okay, I am a little confused. What do you mean by she left you and the three year old for 3 months? Where was she staying during those three months and why did she leave? It is difficult to understand how a mother could leave her three year old child for that long, but maybe that's just me.

I have known some women who threaten the H with divorce every time they turn around. Usually, it starts as emotional blackmail.

Did your W's extreme mood swings seem to begin all at once or within a short period of time.....or has it been more of a gradual buildup? You have no idea what may have triggered her?

It doesn't make sense that she doesn't tell you what the problem is, unless she is projecting onto you something she believes to be true or something maybe she is guilty of herself. One thing for sure, it is serious and appears to be causing a lot of turmoil. You may want to consider getting a counselor or clergy to talk to your daughters, b/c this must be terrible for them. I can only imagine how it could affect them.

Does she talk as if she won't move out until she has filed for divorce?

Protecting you and your daughters is the priority now. Just don't try to discuss the MR or anything that might send her into an uncontrolable rage.

Is there anything in her family history that would give any clues as to why she is acting this way?