WAW is angry and filing divorce

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sandi2, In answer to the second question, she is verbally violent in the nature of her yelling at my youngest daughter or yelling at me with accusations, but she is not physically violent. I guess my use of the word violent was more in how quickly her mood swings from happy to angry. So it is verbal yelling, not physical.
She does detach and go into rooms by herself or leaves and goes to hang out with her brother and his wife or goes where ever it is she goes.
Her detachment from my girls started after her decision to divorce. I think it is a protection mechanism to help her go through with the D and not feel the pain of her family.
Her detachment has created an already deep wedge between her and our D17. Our D17 had a breakdown because she can not stand watching her mothers behavior and told me that she can not feel love for her mom and she knows that is not right. They rarely speak to each other these past few weeks.

I agree on minimizing the contact as it his draining to us all.

Thank you again for replying and all of your advice that I have read in the forum