Hi Iwad, I'm sorry for your current situation. I guess I would ask - what does giving up look like to you? Does it look like you filing? Do you want to file? I would say it is early days in your sitch and sitches can be pretty uncertain. Your H may seem certain - but who knows for sure in the longer term.
Also, I don't think giving up really lessens the pain in any way. We still have to go through it and get to the other side - and DBing is as good a way as any I think. Try not to worry about there being limited contact just now. If you were the pursuer in the R, it does no harm to become the distances. We have had sitches where there was a reconciliation after months (and even years) of NC, so try not to panic about that.
Things that do strike me though. Yours is a relatively young marriage and you have no kids together. Were you together for a good while before getting married? Only you can decide how long you choose to leave the door open. In my case, I have done so for almost 2 years and my H is about to finalise 'his' divorce. That's not the outcome I wanted - but I have been where you are and I have travelled a long way forward to a better place by consistently posting on the forum, GALing and working on myself. Truly, I see a good life for myself going forwards with or without H.
I would encourage you to read others threads too - the more you read and post, the more you will attract posters to your thread. It truly is the case with this forum that you get out what you put in.
Do take care, continue with the LRT and keep posting xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
