Ny I know all want to get our lives back and our WAS and I can not speak about having another person who W is with as it hasn't happened or at least not to my knowledge but reading the last post it sounds as if you are ok with being the backup plan.
Is that true? Are you ok with waiting until she is done the realtionship?
If not, then what are you doing to prove that? I know the heart still feels the pain and wants.
Have you given thought to what it may be like when she gets tired or bored with OW and wants to come back? Have you thought how that resentment and lack of trust you will have is going to be?
I do believe the best thing you can do is become confident and independent and have a life without her. And yes meaning enough goin on to start forgetting her for periods of time. I know this is easier said than done but if this can't be done and she comes back and everything is just swept under the rug I see s repeat.
And I don't just mean we talked and she knows I don't want that again. I mean real work.
Just my thoughts I still believe we can all get what we want but we have to have some self respect and then build new relationships if that is what happens.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
