I realised that I was not being my potential and definitely not showingthe best me at all times. I was making good progress but was being held back by negative emotions.
I am not questioning these emotions as not being justified. I: understand why I felt them and agree with the logic. But they were nit helping me
So by focusing on more positive stuff, including appreciation, I am more positive.This helps me. I am pulled down less by unmet needs and bad moods (hers).
I feel better about me and the world. I am still aware of my situation and it still weighs. But I can shine regardless.
Plus if I react positively to a negative interaction with W, it diffuses its power and does not spiral.
And yes it shows W a better me. I don't have time to explain this better but I hope this answers your question.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together