Feeling he's in MLC, but in D process

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Mel,

This ride, I tell ya!

I woke up to no power and had to wait til I was out on the hwy on the way to ski to get in contact with anyone.

D23 wouldn't answer her phone so I called H who texted back that he was already at the lodge. D23 ditched out on skiing today, but I went on up and H met me there and seemed to be looking forward to skiing with me. Go figure...never know which H I'm going to get. He had even buried two beers in the snow on one run (he had time before I got there) which we sat back and enjoyed at the top of the mountain in a sunny spot.

Snow was great, sky was blue. No R talk. At lunch, H started to pay with a debit card...a different bank. So I now know he has opened his new checking account (I was wondering when he would). Funny. I asked him to start the process of getting my name off of the joint credit card, but he hasn't yet. I'll remember to talk to him about removing names from accounts, now.

It was a good day, fun and relaxing. He called on his way home to chat a bit, as well.

Things I did notice (and have been noticing):

He "glosses over" or ignores my mention of certain things. Me going back to school, his "ladyfriend" if I bring her up (but not her family), many of my activities, or attempts to bring up efforts in trying to decide what my living arrangements will be after the house sells. And anything sexual. This is the guy that can turn anything into a sex joke, so I've been throwing that at him once in awhile. Crickets. Like, totally ignores and is quiet...doesn't even change the subject. Its strange.

He tells me how hard he's working and how tired he is and how he has no money. How he doesn't do anything but work, sleep, eat, and (right now) ski on the weekend. I feel like he wants me to know how hard his life is so that I should be happy that I'm not with him. That I should feel lucky that he left and am able to have a life.

As long as R is not brought up, he acts like my good friend. Platonic good friend. A buddy. I can play that game...for now. I'm interested in seeing where that goes, though. Is it just for while we have to work together through selling the house and dividing things up? Because its easier to do if we're friends? I'm not sure how that will be when there's no reason to see each other anymore.

For now, I'll be his friend. I'll be here if he needs to talk or needs help. I'm moving forward, but it really is interesting to watch what happens when I don't initiate contact. Summer is coming, and with that, ladyfriend and her family and friends will be at the vacation home on many weekends. How much will I hear from him, then, I wonder. I guess I'm getting more detached. I'm not as angry as I am curious, at this point.

I'm fairly certain that will change, as well, though.