I think I remember "snooderly". smile. There were so many supportive folks on this board back then, and I couldn't resist trying it again. I can't find many of my former posts. I looked at first, because I assumed it was all tied together. I am certain some of it is related. But I want to focus on the time when we were "right" with each other after we got remarried. That was the happiest I have been since we were stupid 25 year olds and thought nothing could come in between us.

The tactics that helped me the most back then were detachment, going dark, and pursuit/distance.

I had a great day today! I am a teacher and spring break is over after tomorrow. So I got a pedi and a haircut, and have tried to relax. Didn't listen to negative music. He does that. He listens to all this "she [censored] and I should leave her" music.