Thanks Sandi - for the birthday it's mine and a major milestone at that. I had wanted to go away for a romantic weekend just the two of us before all this happened, now she's planning something for the family to go away for the weekend. It's still 4 weeks away - my take on it is I will go if she tell's me the A is over, otherwise I'll do my own thing and find a friend to go away with or just spend it with my D. I'm guessing it will be the latter as 4 weeks won't be enough time for her to realise what she's giving up.

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17