Hi Huddy. Great news about the gym and it will make you feel better about yourself which is always good.
Good job on setting the boundary with W about how you will be spoken to in your flat
The pattern you've noticed sounds like pull and push , she treats you one way to get a reaction then another to get a reaction You have to stay on level par and not let either way affect you up or down That's detachment !!!!!
It seems W is clearly MLC and unfortunately that's a very long road. Your moving forward with your own life is the best way , your given W her space and your letting life happen. If in a year or two W emerges form the fog then Huudy will either be open to a new R or have moved on
Your doing well and down days pass and we have a new day after to see how good our lives really are