I now see that I have evolved to the point where I am not using my wife's behavior as a barometer of how I should feel. I have detached for the most part but not completely from it. It may be that I have finally broke myself of the codependent tendencies. I don't feel any different, just less stressed, less anxious and less worried about my marriage. I still experience these things, just not as intensely as before. It could be acceptance of the inevitable, whatever that may be.
It looks like blue sky and temps in the 60's today. I think I will spend the early afternoon outside trimming and pruning. I will use my time to make this years growth healthy and beautiful. Deadwood must be removed so that new growth has a effective chance to survive. The trick is to prune just enough to change the direction but not damage the life. After awhile the buds will arrive and the blossoms will appear. I look forward to my blossoms.
