Keep seeing those little positive things and take the focus off what is missing. They may be insignificant in themselves but by focusing on what we have and what we want, instead of feeling bad about what we haven't is important IMO.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together