I went to my mutual friends’ house last night. My male friend already had too much alcohol by the time I came (way after 9 pm), so he went to bed. I and my GF ate late dinner, sat outside and chatted. I asked her if she knows if the condo/trust issue is getting resolved, as it concerns me, because I realized that it could affect my credit score. (Since H only wants to pay the “old” mortgage amount, and mortgage company already started sending the threatening letters about short payment.) She gave me some info and also told me that all this is very complicated. What H wanted to do in terms of transferring the condo to his name, would cost $15,000 to $20,000. I guess they all found out that it is not that simple (exactly what I was telling them before.)
Then my GF brought a couple of subjects about H… Was totally not prompted by me, LOL. Will not go into much detail, but here is something that made me think… She brought up the subject of her cousin again and how H was giving my GF a hard time that she intervened and didn’t let that relationship to develop. So, H confined into her H… He said that he can see how his interest in my GF’s cousin caused some hurt and hard feelings for my GF. And also, that he only wanted a fling, and not a serious R. And… that he doesn’t see how it would work out for a serious R. REALLY!!! First, he must have a memory loss. He did want a serious R (or at least he thought about it at that time), I have the evidence (a couple of e-mails). Second, I think there is some remorse about that story. H would not talk about anything with his friends unless it would really bother him. So, this “confession” is kind of significant. Maybe he is slowly waking up to see how selfish and hurtful his actions were. Next step would be to actually talk to my GF and apologize to her. And then... could I be next??? Not holding my breath though...
This confirms what my intuition tells me. I think H is starting to see something through his pink colored glasses…
My GF also told me how H always talks about this crazy woman’s family like they are a perfect family that he would always wanted. That the kids are doing great, the parents are having fun, and how kind this crazy woman is to other people, and how great her R with her H is, blah, blah, blah… (Is he having some regrets about not wanting his own kids???)
In comparison… my son is doing great, BTW. Not his biological son, but he raised him. And… I’m having fun and doing things… And… I’m kind and people like me, I have lots of friends now! The only thing that was missing… H’s inability to appreciate all of it and not taking care of his family. Maybe he will learn a thing or two from this crazy woman, LOL.
OK, I’m off to the beach with my dog now. I’m so excited to be here and actually be at ease with myself.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
