I was reading your post and I think there's some good info there. I agree, that there are choices here that we can make, that the only thing we can truly control is our attitude about the events and people around us. This is very Buddhist, also, very Epictetus (a Stoic philosopher, Roman Empire, about 50 A.D.).
It's not easy to make this choice all the time, however. When I go into my "choose to be calm, choose to be happy" mode, my W sometimes says I'm taking a "holier-than-thou" attitude. I hate it when she says that. I'm just trying to calmly discuss a problem, and she gets all postal on me, and I stay calm, and it pisses her off more, and I stay calm, and...you get the pic.
Johanna, I thought your lament was so touching and sad and understandable. Hugs to you.
CeMar: predictably statistical, but that's why we love you.
Dave: Your W's request that 24 hours pass without puking before she will consider ML with you seems eminently reasonable to me. Continue being vigilant about the SSM, but don't be a nudge. No one likes a nudge.
One last note: I'm no PETA person, but what kind of monster shocks dogs? I don't care if it's in the name of science or not. That really pissed me off, and no, I won't buy that book.
HairDOG, who loves dogs because those are the only creatures at home who let him pet them, and who lick his face.
