Originally Posted By: PacLove
When she wants to engage should I be reciprocative? for example she wants to go out for family dinner tonight with our D, for the sake of our D I'd like to go but the other side of me is thinking of declining and making my own plans. But the other side of me wants to go for my daughter so she can see how as a family unit we can have a good time together.


I'm curious about this as well. We've been doing everything together as a family, we go out for meals together very frequently. In fact, we spend just as much time together as before BD. Part of it is for the sake of my S11.

Should I continue to invite her as well? I always pay even though she's trying to take me to the cleaners in the D filing.


Me-LBH, 48
Spouse-WW, 48
Married for 19 years
Son, 12
BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding)
BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA)
WW filed D February 2016
WW moved out April 2016