Thanks for the great detailed and lengthy response, gives me some hope for the future.
A few questions:
When she wants to engage should I be reciprocative? for example she wants to go out for family dinner tonight with our D, for the sake of our D I'd like to go but the other side of me is thinking of declining and making my own plans. But the other side of me wants to go for my daughter so she can see how as a family unit we can have a good time together.
If not to go - when do you start to reengage? when she comes clean on the A and says she wants in the marriage again?
How would one respond to her encouraging me to get out and date? I made the mistake of saying I'm not interested unless we are actually D. So she asked if I wanted to get D and I said no, as I still had hope for relationship - big mistake...
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
