No I haven't talked to a Lawyer yet as that seems like I'd be pushing the D then (which I don't want to do). We live in a no-fault state so everything would be split 50/50 anyways - the bigger issue would be spending + alimony down the road.
Do it confidentially, don't tell your WW. A good L will just give you the options. You don't have to push the D or file. I uncovered my WW's plot to D me. But I pre-empted it and saw my L three weeks in advance. It helped me organize my finances and structure things to minimize the impact. I'm in a no-fault state as well. It is more important because you want to minimize the alimony and support you give her, it will really hurt, if you make most of the money like I do. It's terribly skewed against the high earner, actually.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
