If I were to expose I think it would push her over the edge and ruin any hope of drawing her back. The fact that she's cake eating shows me that she enjoys some aspects of our relationship as it is - good or bad, its these things that will hopefully draw her back if I stop giving her cake.
In my case I don't think the Exposure pushed my WW over the edge. Of course she is using that as an excuse to other people, but she was set on D anyway. She planned it with OM for some time based on evidence I gathered. The Exposure shocked and stalled her and got my MIL to push her back into our M. The problem was she was gaslighting me during the fake Recovery and plotting the D anyway.
Me-LBH, 48 Spouse-WW, 48 Married for 19 years Son, 12 BD #1 - November 1998 (EA 7 months after wedding) BD #2 - November 2015 (same XBF EA) WW filed D February 2016 WW moved out April 2016
