I have told him that it didn't matter if he had been trying to fall back "in" love with me because I had not been doing the same. I asked him to give us 6 months to actively try to come together before we planned on divorcing. He has agreed but is afraid I am setting myself up for failure.
So you are not in love? I am confused at what you are trying to do. I assume it is to save your marriage.
I might suggest posting in newcomers with your story so you can read the links and get some support.
Sorry you are back to DB'ing and in a sex starved marriage.
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Originally Posted By: trekfan
I meant that I had not been putting any effort into the relationship. I had just been waiting for everything to be "ok" again.
So can you put effort in now? Would that be a 180?
