Right now, I say "We are doing this do you want to come..." or if she says let's all watch a movie - after she does not show in 15 min, I pick the movie and turn it on. We are not waiting for you and we will GAL.
IMO, this is the route to go. You cannot stand around with your hands in your pockets while waiting to see what she will, or will not, do. Take charge of your day to day life and GAL. Involve the kids, but don't make all your GAL around the kids. Leave the house and do something without them and without her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
