I am so hurt that she would do this to me after all her pretty words and saying the thing that would make her happy is for us to be together. I can do NC, and 10 days will encompass my 60th birthday and her 61st three days later. I'm too old for this. Last year we celebrated for her all year. This is my big one and her gift to me is a ton of lies and false promises. All these wayward liars are alike. Cruel, mean, heartless and selfish. All her sad sad texts about how she's so sorry, about how she feels like crying, that she loves me very much and wants me to know that in case her plane crashes. It's all bull.
NC is right. Detachment is right.
YOU are making this sitch. You are dragging it out. You are stirring the mud. It could be a very simple case of you removing yourself from a faithless cheater, setting clear firm boundaries, detaching, rebuilding a life, and being appreciative for what you have. But because you WANT HER you are clinging with a death grip, telling yourself you don't believe anything she says while desperately looking for promise in her doubts, and attaching your entire emotional well being on what a depressed WAS chooses to do daily.
How can you expect WW to let go of OW if you can't let go of WW?
Act with the character and strength you wish she had. If you can't do it you have no right to expect it from her. Continue in this love triangle and she's not to blame.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
