Thank you Virginia for telling me about the phone coaching support. Will have to make some financial arrangements, but will be using that service very soon.
In the mean time, I'm looking to understand what I need to do today and tomorrow.
* I've gone all week without looking at her FB (or OM and his daughters either). It does more harm than help.
* I already sold my project sports car (for a loss) just to get rid of it.
* Spending more quality time with the 13D who lives with W.
* Getting back to working out and taking care of myself (eating a sleeping much better lately).
* Looking for a social weekend job (will help with GAL and extra income).
* Haven't texted or talked with W since briefly last Monday when I was working out with my 13D in the park for Lacrosse.
* I've been reading (again) Divorce Busting and really searching my soul for the "What To Do's" lately.
* Confused about going dark... I've been too detached in the marriage, but now have to detach during the A. Clearly pursuing her now isn't working. Trying to get back to Alpha Male status again slowly (as long as I'm polite, this does seem to have a positive effect on W).
* Weird - she hasn't un-friended me on Facebook. She knows I can see everything they're doing. They're very sly about it... only likes and support for each other; nothing any outside would even clue in on, but spit in the eyes of me and our 16D. Thinking about blocking her from my FB to protect myself and to send a Sandi's Rule message to her that I'm not a doormat.
* She's completely building a nest for OM's household. She keeps them emotionally supported through their loss (ironically while replacing their wife/mom), cooks, has adventures together, and having sex with OM. Real future building BS...
* The part that really gets me, is that on a level playing field, this OM isn't even remotely on my level. He's lucky to even be talking to my W. However, I'm learning the hard way that he's beating the hell out of me with my W's #1 need, emotional support.
