I am so, so sorry. That is so terribly painful. I'm not going to say you shouldn't have driven by, I'm all for knowing the truth. You self-control was great, and I'm glad her phone was off. You need to think about this before you decide how to react (or not).
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17